Funmi, do you still have something special for the married, when it comes to sex? Besides sex, are there things that can help the marriage relationship to be ever refreshing? When married, are there some hidden sexual lifestyle one should look out for? These and many more are the questions many married men and women out there ask me at difference stages and age in their marriage relationship. So, today we are going to be looking into few of those things the married couples should take good note of when it comes to marital sex.The topmost of it all is that sex between couples has no substitute, never should any married partner look for alternative for sex in the union. Because sex has the potential to be the most profound, satisfying and rich part of a marriage union, its place and position can never be substituted.Sex is a mysterious and sacred act that knits a couple together in ways that are beyond description. Sometimes words fail when I try to describe the oneness that a husband and wife feel after giving their bodies to each other in all erotic ways. Whenever I teach couples about sex in conferences or in my office, the atmosphere in the room changes because of its uniqueness. Some couples cannot wait to hear me talk openly about a topic that is often not discussed. Others are very curious while others are very skeptical; to them the topic is forbidden, ‘unmentionable’ and taboo, something not to be discussed in the public.However, not until the married couples embrace the fact that in their union, there is no substitute for sex, their marriage will still be gravely affected in a negative way.Study has discovered that married couples who embrace sex with a positive attitude and place sex in its rightful position in the union have the best, most satisfying life together. They enjoy sex more often and have the highest levels of physical and emotional fulfilment. Eight eight per cent of such couples receive great physical wellness. I am sure you want to know why.Having sex and orgasm increases levels of the hormone, oxytocin, in the body and this helps couples bond and build trust. A recent evaluation of 59 pre-menopausal women before and after passionate sex with their husbands found that the more sexual intercourse, the higher the oxytocin levels.Oxytocin allows us to feel the urge to nurture and to bond. Higher oxytocin has also been linked with a feeling of generosity. That explains why husbands can release any amount of cash to their wives whenever they are sexually fulfilled. Therefore, if you are feeling suddenly more generous toward your spouse than usual, oxytocin is in the air.Boosting self-esteem and immunity was one of 237 reasons why people have sex, as observed by sex therapists. Good sexual health may mean better physical health. Having sex once or twice a week had been linked with higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A or IgA, which can protect you from getting colds and other infections. It helps you sleep better as the oxytocin released during orgasm promotes sleep, according to research. In addition, getting enough sleep has been linked with a good sex.On average, the human heart beats 70 times per minute but during orgasm, the heart races at 115 beats per minute, which put the heart in a better healthier position. During sex, the body makes use of 100 muscles to produce orgasm while it takes 17 muscles to smile. This indicates that those muscles are not only active but do not depreciate. Brilliant sex produces satisfying orgasm; this orgasm releases chemicals that curb appetite so high-quality sex helps spouses to lose weight. Any time any day, sex relieves stress. A big health benefit of sex is it lowers blood pressure and overall stress reduction.Married women who had intercourse had better responses to stress than those who engaged in other activities or abstinence and frequent sexual intercourse has been associated with lower diastolic blood pressure.One way to make your wife look healthy and less stressful is to give her a hug after sex; this drastically removes constant nagging headaches, increases radiant skin glow, makes her cope with life issues better, makes her more accommodating, willing to help, warm, tender, affectionate and caring. It helps her to be a better cook.Do you know that just thirty minutes of sex between couples burns 85 calories or more?Sex is a great mode of exercise; it improves cardiovascular health. When some older couples worry about the effect of the energy expended during sex could cause stroke, I tell them ‘that is not so’, because scientists found out that frequency of sex was not associated with, stroke, also having sex twice or more a week reduced the risk of fatal heart attack by half in men, compared with those who had sex less than once a month.A cold shower can increase the production of sex hormone in men and women. Having sex under a cold shower is not only romantic but medicinal. Sex reduces pain as the hormone oxytocin surges, endorphins increases; arthritis pain, or PMS symptoms seem to improve after sex, due to higher oxytocin levels they gain after sexual exercise. Sex reduces prostate cancer risk, frequent ejaculations and not masturbation induced one, especially in 20-year-old and above men, may reduce the risk of prostate cancer later in life, Australian researchers reported in the British Journal of Urology International.Sex strengthens pelvic floor muscles for wives and doing a few pelvic floor muscle exercises known as Kegel during sex offers a couple many benefits. Men enjoy more satisfaction, women enjoy more pleasure; it strengthens the area and helps minimise the risk of incontinence, backaches, fatty big tummy and hysterectomy later in life. To do a basic Kegel exercise, tighten the muscles of your pelvic floor as if you are trying to stop urine flow. Count to three, then release.When sex is given its proper place and priority, its benefits can never be over-emphasised. Do not put anything in the place of sex; if you do, the emptiness it will create will be very noticeable.I would also appreciate the fact that married lovers should do anything and everything within their power to wisely handle all sexual excuses, nothing destroys marital sex faster than accumulated logical and illogical excuses.Excuses don’t get result; there are always two options: either you make progress in marriage or you make excuses.Many women love to have sex with their spouses but most times, each beautiful attempt is truncated by the usually work load of a typical married woman.There are days when a man comes home desperate for rest after a day’s exhaustive work and wants to just hit the bed and sleep off. And there are other days when guys are as active as you can never imagine but there is no accompanying libido for a hot night. What do many couples do in such an instance?Many spouses just put up their best excuse forward and go on auto-pilot. The truth is if you do this often, you will blow your relationship that you have laboured to build over the years. Listen to what a man said about his wife: “When it comes to bedroom activities, my wife is good at giving all forms or shades of excuses just to avoid sex. As a matter of fact, giving excuses is what she does for a living,’ says Mr. Kadiri. My response is, ‘Madam, if something is sweet, would you refuse to eat it even when you are tired?If your phone takes your attention more than your partner does, put it out of the bedroom entirely.Most parents do not engage in sex because of the fear of their kids walking in while they are at it. Even though this excuse may be true initially, it eventually becomes a survival habit. But instead of destroying the good time you share together, you could have your friends or relatives take your kids over for a day or two.